Corrective is supportive, actually, if it's the thing that you want/need most and you receive it.

And yeah, the paradox of human existence is that on a basic level we are the same, but yet we really are different. You are not me and I am not you. I may relate to some of your struggle, but I see very clearly that we come from different places and the struggle has a different context for us, because the experience without/within (nature vs nurture) is unique to each of us. And I sense that where you may feel you are not the same as others, or have that sense of wrongness, is that you do not want the same resolution as you feel others seem to want or think is normal. I think you need to do some reframing perhaps ..... accept that you are unique, your experiences, your needs, your desires are yours, and your resolution/solution for your struggle does not have to be the same as it is for another. It only needs to be what is right and normal for you, tailored to you as an individual.
We are individuals who need autonomy and a clear sense of identity, as well as individuals who need connection and inter-relatedness. But we need to have a good relationship with ourselves and a solid sense of ourselves and an authentic acceptance of ourselves in order to be more comfortable in relationships with others - that is NOT worded in the way I see it in my mind, but that's the best I can do with it right now. Being ourselves with ourselves and being comfortable with ourselves helps us feel comfortable with ourselves when we are with others ..... a sense of security that comes from within sustains us both in relationship with ourselves AND with others ..... You need a good connection/attachment with yourself and more acceptance (self-compassion?) for yourself as you are, stopdog ...... if that's even sort of clear.