God I love this forum already 'it's not just me'. Yes you need a new T, perhaps check with the Psychs around for recommendation? I see a bipolar nurse i.e. she's a therapist who has bipolar....talk about 'getting it'. Not in anyway destructive...very helpful.

I have lovers and ex lovers and their partners and my partner etc etc etc...messy....but that's just how we roll. Unfortunately, there will always be another....we are not designed for monogamy...we are too multi dimensional to get everything we need from one person. And as for love vs money....I chose money because it makes more sense than the mindless emotion that we refer to as love. As my Grandpa always said....love don't pay the bills Chicken.

I would be devastated to lose my lover of 10 years....but I also know he is replacable fundamentally. At the moment you want to replace your lover with your wife...who knows what the future holds. You have my empathy dear friend, I salute you.