Thanks for the hugs and input! I really appreciate it! You are absolutely correct, Lee. I am quite sure that I am driving some of them insane as well (from their POV, I am a pain, and I probably am - I get kind of bossy and judgmental when I'm irritated/grumpy).

Also, and a big project for me to work on, after asking someone repeatedly, very graciously, to do something, and they still do whatever they want, I get really annoyed. And that is where the indignation comes in

I know there are lessons here and it can only make me better!

My T recommended new reading material for me, as well, regarding the issue, which I hope helps!