Yep, I've known for quite some time he's abusive......and by definition so can I.....I have gotten a lot better since my diagnoses and being put on meds, but I can be mean and snippy if I am having a really bad episode.

I do say in my head often....I'm bipolar....but what the heck is his excuse? For someone who so readily puts down people who are unstable, he sure as heck isn't too stable himself.

I think I am going to have a talk with our closest friends. They are a couple that we both love dearly and they know all about our issues. However, I've always been the biggest target, so to speak, because I always had the obvious bipolar issue. I have decided I am not going to let that be the focus anymore. If our friends are going to mediate for us, they need to know how nasty he can be and call him to accountability on it. I sure as heck have been called to accountability (and gladly) for the things I do to contribute to the mess. It's his time now..