Ohhh, ugggh!!!!

Ok. My bf is a sleepy head, I'm a morning person, I need little sleep, he needs lots. We compromise. He sleeps in some days and wakes early with me on some days. My bf also used to pull away from me when I was depressed. I know exactly how great that feels. he has changed this after much discussion about what I need. When he is depressed he isolates, and I don't. We just accept that we are each different in this and have different needs.

This a very complex problem going on. I'm not sure how you get someone to care tho, if they clearly don't.

I am so sorry he is making you feel like this. It sounds like you just can't win. You can't help yourself, and when you do you are still wrong. That truly is awful. My father was like that with my mother. She had zero self-esteem or confidence when he left her.