It isn't neccesarily that, it is just the guidelines the BDSM community really live by. As someone that is involved in BDSM and is a sub in a domminace and submissive relationship those guidlines are in place to keep everyone safe. BDSM is all about trust and respect for the mutual parties involved especially in D/s relationships. Those relationships and sexual experinces can't work if you don't feel safe, don't trust your partner, or don't have respect for them and they you. You are welome to pm me anytime.