Since this isn't in women's issues I can play too right?
Okay I obviously don't have experience to relate to but I agree with you that "... looks are maybe the least important characteristic of a person..."
And yet
Try thinking of it this way: that's your opinion that your nose is too big and your butt is too big and your legs are too short.
Of course there are different body types and popcult says there is an ideal. And some people do have ideals although they may be programmed ideals.
Vive la difference
And hey...guys suffer the same thing right? Are there any women here who can honestly say that they don't judge a book by it's cover to one degree or another?