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Originally Posted by bowhunt72
If we're going to be honest, then let's be honest. There are two sides to every story, and this story does not involve a completely innocent person being wronged by a completely guilty person. Pretending it does, and trying to repair the marriage on that basis, would itself be dishonest. No, the blame isn't 50/50. It's probably more like 90/10, with 90% of the fault mine. But if this is going to have any chance to work, everybody has to come clean.
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I, by no means, ever claim to be a good person, who has always done the right things....if I did, that would make me a hypocrite.....I did alot of things to my marriage that I wasnt proud of (as he did too), but I always find when assigning blame, it kills me when people come up with percentages.....who cares....90/10, 40/60, 80/20......some days you are the crappier person, somedays your spouse is the crappier person....it evens out.....
But in all my wrong doings, I have learned alot.....no one ever owes you....it doesnt matter what you try and do to make things right, it is hard for the human spirit to forget.....we can forgive until the cows come home.....but forgetting.....well thats another story.....Im not trying to sit up on my pedestal here bowhunt, but honestly? You need to back off and leave your wife alone. You cant imagine the hurt done to her because you arent her.....and she cant imagine the hurt she did to you, because she is not you.....You both need to find yourselves, by yourselves, and see where that leads you. I wish you both the best of luck, as I know its a hard time....