Put your already born child, and this new child first. That doesn't mean keep or no keep. I'm am pro choice also. But it doesn't sound like you actually want another child. And then yes, it's a bit of a mess, and when I saw your other post maybe it's even bigger a mess?

If I were in your position I would make some lists and do some serious searching. Figure out what I actually want to do, and what is best for children involved born and unborn.

I also struggle with anorexia. It's not easy no, but when another human life is on board, it is a little easier.

Does your husband know about your pregnancy, or just your lover?