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Apr 19, 2012, 08:17 AM
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Member Since: Oct 2010
Location: Michigan
Posts: 6,543
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Bless your heart -- Sounds like people are walking all over you!  I can understand.
First the kids -- I HAD that problem at one point. I had to put my foot down. So -- I told them that as long as they lived in OUR HOME -- they were going to abide by OUR RULES -- they were going to come home at a decent hour -- for instance 12midnight or 1am -- you put the time limit on. After that, the house was LOCKED. If they have their own keys, take them away. Tell them you are NOT running a hotel and you're TIRED of being awakened all the time -- or tired of worrying about them every night. AND - if they don't like your rules, they are WELCOME to move out. This is called "tough love" and it works. Yes, they might move out, but chances are it will be short term.  And as long as they live in your home, you can install any "laws" that you like, within reason of course. 
As for moving to some deserted island, I think your husband is being very selfish -- he's not taking your wishes into consideration at all. I thought marriage was supposed to be a partnership -- 50/50 and all that?? Yours sounds more like a dictatorship!  You might remind him that he would NEVER see any grandchildren once there are any. You might tell him that you didn't "sign up" to be a farm wife. It sounds to me like he's having a mid-life crisis and once he gets thru it, all these crazy ideas will be long gone. (I hope) Do NOT let him bully you into this -- you have RIGHTS too. Remember that women got equal rights long ago. LOL Just tell him that you WON'T go, and he'll have to pay PLENTY if he leaves you to go to some island! (that's desertion)
I wish you the very best. I don't know of any book -- I just flew by my shirttails. LOL Please take care & God bless. Oh -- by the way -- my "ex" wanted to grow mushrooms & rabbits in our basement! I put the kabosh on THAT! Take care. Hugs, Lee
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