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Originally Posted by velcro003
Now in the adult world, I still struggle to accept feelings--especially negative ones. Judging myself is much easier. You struggle with interactions with other people, because you know you are feeling awful even though the situation might not warrant it. If the T said "Stopdog, you realize that this is an irrational thought, so you are probably not correct in thinking your co-workers are mocking you about your presentation." And there-you are fixed? That is the answer that you need?
I know I write you novellas in your threads. I know I basically say the same things over and over, and you say the same things back over and over. There is something about you that tugs at my heart strings
(  I know-you'd rather be this guy than hearing that, sorry!) and sincerely wants to help you feel better i n whatever way you deem fit. If all you want to do is figure out a way to interact with people without wanting to destroy yourself, I want to help...which is why I keep pursuing all this "attachment nonsense." If you can do it your way without dealing with connection, then I am happy for you. Until then, I am going to keep trying!
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there, I agree with this ..... especially the last part here ....... there is something that draws me toward you and your questions and struggles, too, stopdog. I want to help, too, as velcro said, help you feel better in whatever way you deem fit, help you find a way to feel better in interacting with others, a way to think about it or reframe it so that you don't have that sense of wrongness. Part of it is just that I relate so much to that sense of wrongness, I think, because I have carried it all my life, and I know how hard it is to try to adjust, adapt, reframe, so that it is more comfortable to connect and to interact with others and more comfortable to be with myself as I appear to be emotionally/mentally (even though I can change so much, and have changed some of my thinking, deep down I feel some things I can't change and have to simply accept and just find a new way of living with those things I can't change). Anyway, even if I haven't managed to be much help to you, stopdog, you have helped me in a way; it's helped me to think through these things.