I love my mom. I really do. But sometimes, I get frustrated with her. She just called me a few minutes ago, and it was one of her "guess what I want" calls. She asked me if my bf and I went grocery shopping, as we usually do on Mondays, but we hadn't, because he didn't feel like it. Then, she changes the topic and starts with her cryptic method of speaking, where I'm supposed to guess what she wants. She can't just ask, and make both of our lives simpler. She says, "You know that gynecologist..." and I say, "What gynecologist?" She says, "On (street name)." I say, "I don't know where that is. I'm really bad at street names." She says, "Over here in (city)." "Ok," I say, "I don't know what one you mean. What about her?" She said, "0600." "Huh?" "0600." "What about 0600?" "That's the number." "Um, ok." "I forget her name." "Ok. Sorry, I don't know who you mean." She says, "Well, never mind, I'll do it." I say, "Do what?" She says, "Make an appointment." I say, "What?" "She says, "No, it's ok, I'll do it tomorrow. I can make it for my schedule, so it'll be better." I'm like, "Ok." And we hang up.

She does this a lot. She's afraid to ask for what she wants, and then I get frustrated trying to figure her out, and she thinks I'm upset because she's bugging me, but I'm upset because I want her to come out and just tell me what she wants. We have to play these games all the time. Even if I tell her I'm not upset at the favor she wants, that I just want her to tell me what she wants, she doesn't believe me. She thinks it's the favor.

That said, some of her favors are a bit odd. I mean, why does she want me to make a gyno appointment for her? Many, many years ago, while I was a teen and living with her, she had me call to see if a company was hiring. I felt silly, and just as I expected, the guy asked me, "Why isn't your mom calling us, if she wants the job?" I didn't know what to say.

How do I get patience to deal with my mom? I don't usually snap at her as much as I used to, but I don't want her to feel like she's bothering me. I just want her to come out and ask me what she wants.