Sunflower, we understand that you love your boyfriend and want to fix him, but the other posters who are telling you to leave are concerned with the well-being of your child.

The pain of ending a relationship will never compare to the pain you would feel if he ever harms your child or if your boyfriend is arrested for child pornography or harming a child outside of the family.

I think the bottom line is that he may never be "fixed"....and, he certainly won't get there without therapy. You may not care about your own happiness and don't want to hurt him, but your child has no voice in the matter. Please consider what is best for the child...this is your only option as a parent.

The posters encouraging you to leave probably DO understand that you love this man. But, it just doesn't matter in light of the potential harm he could do to your child or other children out there. Do you trust him (really?) to never hurt your child? If not, then it really doesn't matter how much you love him and that you'll be sad without him. Help him from a safe distance. Or, at the least, send your child to live with someone you trust until he can get into therapy.