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Originally Posted by Sunflower0440
I'm 20 years old, I've been in other relationships but I guess this is my first "real" relationship. On one hand I can imagine trying to make a life of my own with my son, but I can't imagine being with anyone else, I can't imagine having to schedule visits for my son, I want my son to have his father.
Also the fact that if I would leave him I'm sure he wouldn't get help, he would go back to old ways and there would be no saving him anymore. It would be 100% worse situation if my son would visit him then for us to just be a couple right now. I think I'm more concerned with hurting him by leaving then my own happiness at the moment.
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Have you looked at the links? I understand that money is an issue, but
if he is seeking help for himself, help is available without cost. Depending on your location, chances are quite good that, once he's established in a program, the two of you can receive couples counseling. Your being involved in this with him would go a long way in telling his counselors that he has a support system.
And I understand that you are not prepared at this point to leave him. As long as you understand that you are risk custody of your child should it be found that he's selling pictures of your son that are illegal, then you certainly are legally free to make that choice. Adults have tough decisions to make all too often--& you are in a tough spot.
I urge you to get him involved in a program or in therapy, because that will be a first step for both of you in taking this from a problem you deal with occasionally in angry words into real action. Without action, you'll be left with just festering emotions and nothing good comes of that.
Please keep posting. I hope some of the others can suggest ways of helping you find help quickly to move this along. Would you mind letting us know generally where you are located?
Roadie
