Well, I don't know any self help books or programs... But if you need advice I have some.

Personally, I didn't really get to do any self help programs or see much concilors. I saw one when I was 12 years old for exactly one week and that was even before I knew I had BPD.

I found it so much easier to talk to and discuss my problems with people that I actually shared love with.

I think you should talk to really close friends or lovers about it...

But I don't know, I think the cure is learning to actually love yourself and trust that you're not alone and there are people who are not abondoning you.

Its hard, it takes a long time, but I'm sure if you really want it, you can have it.

If you need any help, I'd be happy to be there for you. ^_^