Hi Irishj! sorry that you are going thru a rough spot right now, as I am sure it has been for awhile already. You don't say if you have children or not? That could play a role in this as things will need to be taken into consideration for them. AS in the extra beds, tv, computer, washer dryer etc...most judges wouldn't think of letting him take that from you but that is most not all.. as myself said above you will be needing to do itemized lists etc.... if there is a savings or checking acct, watch your credit cards, if his name is also on them or he could try to run them up quickly and you could get stuck with bills.... be very specific on what you and he get and right down to the bills.... though I found out that even in court it didn't matter that my divorce paper said my ex would pay a bill, they still came after me, so besides ruining my credit it also is on his and it hurts him more than me....guess my getting back at him in a nasty way after so many years.. He is still suffering that credit nasty after 20 years and its a big one.... Like I said though alot of what has happened and if you have children will play a part.... did you work while married or did he want you at home,,,, then he may have to pay spousal support for awhile until you get on your feet. Like I said make sure you and lawyers work on everything...I do wish you the best and let me know how things work out for you I have a pretty good shoulder if you find a need. Linda possibly a new friend from PC.. Take care!!