He is projecting his ill feelings about his mother onto you. You could be a saint and the word bipolar would bring all those unresolved issues onto you even if you had perfect control of cycling and never had another episode.

I was with my husband for 13 years, 11 of those married before I was diagnosed bipolar II. My husband has repeatedly said that I'm the same person I was for all that time- and the word "bipolar" doesn't get to come in and change our relationship. He was happy before he will probably be happier now that we can control the depressions that show up.

I am so sorry this is happening to you. You deserve far better, far far better. Did I see in your typing that he has a GUN out in the open in the home? Not kept in a gun cabinet with the ammo stored separate? Not a real smart guy there.

You are doing so much. NOBODY can be the perfect partner all the time. Was he like this before any diagnosis?