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Leed · Apr 20, 2012, 09:45 AM

Ok ~ "inner-most secrets" -- Let's say that in the past you were promiscuous -- you wouldn't want your girlfriend or your prospective mate to know that, would you? Or let's say that you're engaged -- and you cheated. You wouldn't want your fiancee' to know that would you?? NO. So you would tell your "best friend" to get it off your chest! Your best friend hopefully wouldn't tell anyone!!! A best friend usually knows you better than anyone else -- maybe even better than your girlfriend, cause they've probably known you longer! You can "dis" your best friend, and they won't get mad but your girlfriend will! LOL You can have a fight with your best friend and they'll ALWAYS forgive you -- but your girlfriend might not. Your best friend will ALWAYS be there for you, but your girlfriend might not. If you lost your best friend thru death -- it would DESTROY you. You CANNOT replace a best friend. But you can ALWAYS get another girlfriend. You might say that you can always get another best friend -- but not like the one you lost -- they are FOREVER. So it WOULD make a difference if something happened to you! It would hurt like @#@# to someone who considers you a best friend!!!

A brother-sister relationship is like no other. There is a deep bond there -- a "blood" connection. They know the "secrets" of the family and they are tied by that. Most often they know each others secrets too, and they share that. If they're close in age, they played together growing up. They share memories of their childhood. The brother if older was the champion of the sister! If younger, she undoubtedly helped take 'care' of him. It's a strong bond.

There is nothing wrong with a man if the woman sees him as a "brother." She cares for him -- she just isn't "in love" with him. There's nothing WRONG with that. That doesn't mean he's ugly!! He could be an Adonis -- she just doesn't feel that attraction to him. That happens -- perhaps she likes skinny, wimpy guys. Who knows??? It does NOT reflect on the guy at ALL. He could STILL draw 100 other women -- just not that particular girl. She just wants him as a 'friend.'

"Deep, stronger love" sometimes just doesn't come because of a number of things, as I pointed out. Perhaps personalities don't mix, sometimes it just plain doesn't happen for no apparent reason. Both parties might WANT it to happen, but it just doesn't. You can't MAKE love happen -- it's either there or it isn't. It's true that love isn't logical. You can't really explain it.

I don't think anyone is better off alone. It WILL happen to you. Just don't ANALYZE it so much. Just let things happen naturally, and it WILL happen. Give it time. Don't be in too much of a hurry cause you can't hurry these things along. It will come in time, I promise. Try not to worry about it, ok? God bless. Hugs, Lee