So, after almost a year of long distance phone sessions (both my t and I moved and now we live about 1000 miles away) I started t with a local person. Today was my 3rd session.

New t is always late (old t was always exactly on time), which is a big pet peeve of mine. She offers to run the session late, but I can't- I only take an hour off work and I have to be back on time. Today we had about a 1/2 hour together.

New t is a neuropsycologist (old t was lcsw). She wants to blame everything on head injuries and seizure disorder. She even requested my old medical records. Old t never wanted to talk about that stuff unless I brought it up (which I never did).

New t has strongly (VERY strongly) recommended medication. Old t couldn't care less if I was on meds and certainly didn't recommend anything in particular. Probably because she didn't know much about them, and I prescribe psych meds every day so am fairly knowledgeable. She was willing to let me make that decision on my own.

I never would have thought that I had any kind of attachment to old t. I liked her. We'd been together for a few years. I was comfortable with her, but I wouldn't have called my feelings for her very strong. She told me one time "I feel like there is a huge space between us and I have to be careful what I fill it with". I thought that was very insightful. New t tried to hug me as I walked out and of the office today and said "I really like you". Ew.

I live in a very small, very remote town and I work for the only hospital in the area. Options are limited if I don't want everyone to know my business. This is partly why I stuck with distance t for so long. Now, I want to go back to her. New t probably has a lot to offer if I give her a chance. How many more sessions should I give her before I either quit on t altogether or go back to old t?