I think you might be referring to being 'held in mind' rather than just 'held'... if you Google it there a couple helpful articles (PDFs I think so I don't think a link to them would work) but it's basically about attachment to mum as a baby - preverbal communication, 'mind reading', existing in another's mind... like hankster said there's a thread somewhere with a video that showed a clear example of this. How mum paid attention to you (or not) as a baby affects how you communicate with and attach to others as an adult.. It's not that we remember these things, it's that we can suppose them based on our behavior now... I think..!

Hankster - I too have figured I harbour a kind of jealousy and resentment for noisy children - because I was never allowed to be one! I just thought I must 'hate' kids... But no, it's just the noisy ones that are having fun that bug me... how dare they have fun?!