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you mentionned DBT in your post. I did DBT before and I also did other kind of therapy. DBT did seem more "cold" sometime as it was very focus on skills. DBT therapist work toward behavioral targets in 3 stages. The fisrt stage is attaining basic capacities (decrease behavior that interfere with quality of life, increase behavioral skills, ...) The second stage is reducing post traumatic stress. The third one is increasing self respect and achieving individual goal. If your therapist sees you at stage one of treatment, she might be concern about your readiness to touch on your past trauma. If she is new to DBT, she might not know how to handle all situation in a proper "DBT" way. But, DBT therapists usually work in team and have consultation regularly. You have voice your concerns, hopefully your therapist will be able to ask for help at her next therapists meeting. I understand that DBT is a difficult type of therapy and training of therapist is very important to do right.
hope that help some...
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