I'm sorry to hear about your dad, elcogite. Losing parents can be a pretty rough experience. I've gone thru it. Be sure to allow yourself all the grieving feelings that come along with it. Be kind to yourself right now.

Of all people, you'd expect your t to know you well enough to respond with effective empathy. I'm disappointed to hear how her response made you feel. I hate it when I occasionally get what I call 'player piano' responses. I've confronted t on those--after the fact... It seems like it would be important to let her know how her response made you feel. She's gotta get out from behind DBT skills facilitating at times like this. Don't give up on her, though. She's human. Maybe she can't relate at all to the experience. Maybe she's had time to think it over? I'd bring it up again.