I think our daytime fantasies are very like our nighttime dreams. The images and metaphors are ours as well as the "results". Recurring dreams allegedly recur until we face whatever it is that is bothering us and work on it so we don't need to have the problem brought up to us over and over.

I know when I'm feeling more frightened than I like, I'll decide I'm excited instead; fear and excitement feeling similar (why people ride roller coasters, watch scary movies, etc.). When I use to get too tangled up inside I'd "destroy" everything (throw a hand grenade into my own foxhole) and "start over". It would really lower my anxiety for a bit and I'd be able to think clearer.

If I were you, earthmamma, I'd decide exactly what "it" was/represented and maybe change the venue to a huge flea market? Then I'd start a swap meet/flea market searching hobby, see if I could find something that represented what I'd lost for me