I think forums like this can present a lot of heartbreak and struggle, and sometimes that's not what we need. They can also show a lot of courage, wisdom and achievement, but the troubled side of things can seem to override that, depending on where we are on our own journeys.

It can be helpful to know we're not alone and we're understood. Sometimes, though, I don't want to connect in that way, and I wonder if it holds me back. I can feel like I'm getting stuck in other people's difficulty moving forward.

Do you think it could help to either restrict to yourself to certain forums only (ones that you see more positivity in), to restrict the time you spend here or to take a break altogether for a while? Maybe that could help you clarify things, and if you do decide you want to be here you might be clearer about why.