I went to the link in the post above. It gives good suggestions. The one that I liked especially was the one that said "Stop scaring yourself."

I do that a lot. It's awful. I think of awful things that could happen to me, and then I say that I deserve those things to happen to me.

billi_lelli - you sound a lot like me to me. I think we need to find a more positive way to talk to ourselves. Despite how mean others think we are when we are mad, or whatever, we are really meanest to ourselves.