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Originally Posted by Open Eyes
Well you had quite a relationship with your old T. She gave you permission and support to become who you are now. Maybe in ways she gave you the nurturing you always needed so you could find yourself, whatever that is for you and you Have come a long way. Maybe you should touch base with her once a month or something just to give you that comfort to help you keep going and maintain.
This T is a man right? Well, for me as time went on and he just listened and validated me, I began to feel like he was the father I needed to just listen while "I" sorted things out instead of lecturing me and only half listening.
So maybe this Male T can help you in a different way that you don't realize yet. You need to fill in the places where you somehow didn't get permission to place value in yourself and also allow your emotions to be there with you. I don't always think that you have to go back unless things are coming forward that you somehow need to sort through right now. And if you get more established as you have, sorting through anything that may come up will not be as hard because you now CAN actually participate in your life more emotionally right now.
Always make sure you maintain what you have accomplished. A new T is not supposed to do anything but help you keep moving forward ok?
((((Hugs))))
Open Eyes
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Thank you again!
My new T is a woman T. I won't go to a male T unless I'm desperate but I lucked out and found this T who's a woman and specializes in trauma.
My old T I've been keeping in touch with via email (just a couple emails nothing crazy). I emailed my old T asking for names of T's she could recommend (this was before I decided to see current T). I told her I had an appointment with this T but I wasn't sure about her. My old T said she had some ideas to move forward if things didn't workout with new T and she would be available to see me. - I haven't called her on that as I want to keep moving forward and see how things go with new T.
I'm feeling a little lost:
Have some sadness about old T and missing her (something I feel awkward about mentioning or discussing with new T).
With new T and I'm having doubts about her helping me (she knows her stuff) - I'm feeling hopeless and I know it's my feelings and nothing she has or hasn't done. I then go through a period of feeling 'OK' as I have a 'normal' moment and I have a window of confidence and I question myself: "now why the hell am I in therapy?". For the cycle to then only replay itself from the beginning. I 'get it' but it just feels frustrating and I feel like a 'victim' to my emotions. I'm so sick of them driving the bus!!
Sorry for the rant. Gosh I'm so sick of listening to myself already!
