Wounded1 Your question really isn't that complex? Yes I do believe someone can love someone and not always be there for that person... let me explain a bit of me... I am disabled in a very loving relationship that because of my health issues has had more downs that ups through the years.... the thing is I can't always be there for my man, as much as I love him but and this is a BIG BUT I don't treat him badly.... though I do go through and put him through some trying times, but we still love one another.. as hard as it can be some days... I honestly don't know why he stays with me, I know I can be the royal queen B*** but he loves me he says....
Your situation is totally different though, he is knowingly disrespecting you and your feelings.
and apparently cares not at all. He may love you but he certainly is not showing it with his disrespectful ways.
Maybe it is time to move on, which I really hate to say, but if he is unwilling to face his demons to love you then he just isn't good enough for you . You deserve more than that. If he just wants to run away then he is acting immaturely and needs some help with dealing with life
I really wish I had the right words here because I can feel your confusion so deeply . If I can ever be of any help feel free to pm me even just for a shoulder to cry upon.... I feel kind of helpless right now but I can offer that. Linda