What do you think about "using" a therapist? Instead of creating a connection with them, having personal feelings - just "using" them in a business-like relationship to gain whatever knowledge and insight they have. Ignoring when *they* hurt you. Not caring whether what *you* say upsets them, bores them. Not caring whether they judge you. Just saying whatever you want, discussing whatever you want. Just plowing through to get whatever available answers there are to the questions you have - and putting all personal feelings aside, and not worrying about theirs. Pursuing your own goals regardless of the therapist's goals (for you). Is that immoral?