O Kiya, I completely and utterly get this situation. And I feel for you. Hospitals cause my entire system to go completely out of tune. It's not even cool. Exactly like you're describing and then usually the hospital thinks that I'm so severe that I need not see the outside for months. So I go in for acute suicidal thoughts and I stay for 3 months. Usually it takes that long until all alters feel safe in that particular place and stop acting out. When really it's not necessary for them to feel safe there, just let them go back home. As long as the original issue(safety) was dealt with. Although to them it seems as if it hasn't been dealt with, because I have had alters do just as you described. Self harming or harming other parts, etc. But that stuff wouldn't be happening if I was at home.

It's really really triggering for my system to be in a hospital. We now have a safe hospital that specializes in DID, but getting the insurance to cover it is nearly impossible.

I'm so sorry you have to experience this. It's one of my biggest things that rocks my safety. Like if a unsafe part comes out and is tormenting my system, we have nowhere to go. As you described general psych wards make us panic more, so we have to end up, in a real sense keeping our safety level to ourselves, because we don't want to be retraumatized.

I am really glad though that there was a hospital who helped you like that. There are no general psych wards like that around where I am. I have considered typing up some sort of a letter while I'm well, so that when I am very ill I can use it and see if it works. Like for instance I would include in it that if possible it makes me feel more safe to have my own room, so that when I feel overwhelmed I have a safe place to retreat to.

Maybe you could do the same?