I sometimes get told I look a few years younger than I am, nothing too dramatic, but my voice...... ack. I always get told I'm quiet, and I've heard my voice on answerphone messages and I do sound like a child... lately in therapy my behavior also seems to be.. rather childish..

I SO want to be a grown up - a sophisticated, level headed young woman! With one of those lovely sultry smoky voices you hear, you know?

I think a lot of it was how I was raised, encouraged to be meek and quiet.. I still don't really feel empowered to make a lot of noise. But, I'm so used to speaking at low volume that it feels normal to me and to try and raise it feels as if I'm straining to do so, which feels uncomfortable - I feel as if I'm shouting, and I worry I sound aggressive.

In therapy I probably go even quieter than usual. My T has often had to ask me to repeat what I said because she didn't catch it.

So yes, I empathise! I don't really know what to do about it. I've started to try using EFT, tapping.. I figured maybe I can empower myself to find and use my voice with confidence.. see how that goes...