Maybe letting go from both yourself and your husband will help? I mean - not letting go of the relationship, but letting go of the vision you have. Maybe a compromise can be reached so, for example, you live in the US but spend few months in a remote place, or you practice religion but he does not. As for the kids - its up to the both of you to set the boundaries. I have a feeling that once you sort your differences as a couple the kids issues will be sorted too.