I have been doing a lot of soul searching and I am wondering this because of my own feelings and actions.... I know I've asked questions on the issues with my husband before, but just bare with me.

I took a quiz about abusive behavior and these are things I came up with. Primarily jealousy.

I get jealous when my husband hangs out with his friend. I've never been jealous of any of his friends before, but I am jealous of this particular friend. For example, yesterday (Sunday) he was hanging out with his friend from ten a.m. until two a.m. this morning, when he finally came to bed. Saturday was hanging out with his friend from about noon until 11 p.m., but then my husband actually spent about 3 hours with me. On Friday he was with he was hanging out with this friend from 9 a.m. until 1 a.m. I am going to stop there because this is a daily thing, and it is always more than 2 hours that they are together.

The other thing is that his friend tends to bring around girls. They always have girls hanging out with them. There is now a girl who hangs out with them everyday who is actually really close with my husband's best friend. I don't know anything else about her, but I feel jealous of her because I know my husband is always hanging out with her and having fun. But it isn't just her. It has become any girl that appears to be hanging around him I get jealous. I don't want to be that way.... He gets mad at me for being jealous of these girls, too, because he says it's ridiculous. Part of me knows he is right but another part of me can't help it.

I wish his friends would just disappear. I wish they would have a huge fight and stop talking. I've never felt this way before. But now i take this quiz and I realize I may be acting abusive and controling. I don't want to be that way. I want my husband to have friends. He's going to be joining a "team" with his friends. I don't want him to join. This makes me feel bad. I've always supported my husband's activities before. I've never been against him joining a team before...

Anyway, I feel terrible to think I may be abusive feeling these things. What do you think?