I do .. I really do!

I believe she is the most selfish person i have ever seen in my life.. She always uses me .. When i wanted to study, she didnt allow me, when i wanted to work, she was not convinced.. reason being, that would make her alone..then she pressed me to work because she needs money .. Not even once, she asked me what i wanted to do with my life .. what i like to have .. She is the only obstacle in between my every dream, aim of life ..

My hatred feelings for her sometimes make me frustrated & guilty as well.. I have decided not to speak to her .. in this way, i wouldn't misbehave with her, nor i would feel guilty later on ..

How do you guys deal with Hatred feelings? Do you hate someone in your family or any close person, you cannot avoid? Please give me some tips to deal with this .. I have a headache right now just because i was so furious at her .. and i couldn't vent it out on her ..