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Originally Posted by Thimble
Ignoring when *they* hurt you.
Just plowing through to get whatever available answers there are to the questions you have - and putting all personal feelings aside
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Originally Posted by Thimble
The problem is I fail at relationships with people, especially in therapy.
the "relationship" thing keeps getting in my way
so I thought maybe I could circumvent all my people issues (ego, needy little child inside, etc.) and try to ignore all personal aspects and disconnect so I could get my answers.
I have been trying - ignoring the things that hurt me that make me quit therapy (therapist side) - and ignoring the shame and humiliation of my ego that make me quit therapy (my side).
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These things above that you mention are good things to work on in therapy. Being in a relationship and telling someone when they hurt your feelings is a very good skill to acquire.
Healing isn't just about getting answers. Healing is about acquiring skills too, skills that are acquired in a healthy relationship. (You know, those things that we missed out on while growing up). Allowing that inner child to grow up and develop in therapy would be an excellent use of your therapy time.