Hi Dennis P. - I think its important to realize you're seeing only one side of this marriage problem. She may be in a verbally abusive relationship or when relationships are rough, sometimes there's a lot of bad fighting. You're getting only her side. If you were married - would you want your wife to get emotional support from another man? If her husband has a sick mother and they have young kids - this is a lot of family stress. Maybe these 2 just need marital counseling.

I've been through terrible marital problems but I don't run to another man and talk about my husband. If this woman were to divorce her husband and end up with you...when things get rough between you, she'll run to another man. If there's hope for her ad her husband, she needs to look to him for emotional support and having feelings for you will prevent this. Be wise and know there's 2 sides to this story. People who cheat always manage to justify what they're doing.