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Originally Posted by DianaCW91
Hi Abyssal, I know how you feel. If it was not for my dad I would have rid my mother from my life long ago. I know, (as maybe is the case with your mother) that she has her own issues that I have to realize are there and maybe she cannot control them like I sometimes cannot control mine... but still I was not put on this earth to be her emotial punching bag. It took many, many... many theripy sessions to realize her behaviour is her behaviour and there is nothing I can do about it. Until she is ready to admit she has a problem no one can help her. I don't know your personal situation, but for me to cope I had to distance myself as much as I could from her. As much as it caused me pain I had to stand up for myself. I don't mean vent on her, but rather point out what she is doing and that it is not an acceptable way to talk to you. I had to stop trying to be the perfect daughter and try to be the best me I could be.
Do you have a theripest who can help you find your voice, without losing your head?
Sorry I tend to ramble. I just wanted you to know you are not alone.  |
Its really great to see that there is someone who can feel my pain, and have gone through same scenario... thank you for giving your input & advice.
I am also trying same, staying away from her as much as i can .. she is not allowing me to move anywhere for my studies.. but i will keep on pushing her .. In this weekend, thrice i fought with her on small issues.. i always feel guilty after that, i dont want to misbehave with her, quarrel with her but she pushes me on that .. Now, i am trying to avoid any kind of conversation with her .. I know her issues.. she is a bipolar .. but that doesn't mean that she is going to spare every child and use me only for her purpose. Sometimes i feel sympathy for her, and sometimes, she frustrates me to an extent that i start hating her .. I want to distance myself from her and i am trying to do anything for it.. thats why i started working, now i am thinking to do a part time job ..
sometimes, i do really feel like attending counselling .. you know what? i have done my honors in psychology .. and its my passion .. but my mother is being hindrance in pursuing my career in it .. Anyway, i sometimes do want to go for counselling , i dont have any disorder i am sure
but i do have some issues to deal with .. some emotions to handle... but, here in my part of the world, all doctors are arabs, hardly anyone is good in communicating in English
my mom herself is on medications .. and there was no proper counselling session with her... this is a system here .. pathetic!!
So, did you manage to distance yourself with her? Are you living with her? Living with such kind of person is most difficult thing.
Felt good to talk to you .. Keep posting .. thanks alot!!!
