You don't need a disorder to need counseling. I suggest looking around. I went to 4 different places before finding one that worked for me. There are even local places that offer free counseling. Sure it is not with a doctor, but they are still highly trained and if they cannot help you they can probably point you to someone who can. I don't know where you live, but what I did was look in my local phonebook and found a section of The Department of Health (government I know - but a place to start ) that focused on Mental health. From there I found a free support group, and from there I was able to find a councilor and from there I found a great pdoc who got me into the counseling that saved my life. Yes all those steps where discouraging at times and it didn't happen over night. But I had reached a point I think you may be at - I was tired of hurting and being hurt.

I have managed to distance myself from her - but not completely. I moved to another part of the country to go to university - yes I am $paying$ for it now - but it was worth it I do live closer to her now - but still far enough away I only visit when needed. Basically I am torn, my dad and mother are still together. My dad is great. He is not perfect (but then who is ) and I try to be there for him. Doing that means I have to see her.