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Apr 23, 2012, 08:57 PM
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Member Since: Oct 2010
Location: Michigan
Posts: 6,543
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You know -- if you REALLY didn't care, you wouldn't be agonizing over this.  The problem is, you care TOO MUCH!  And another part of the problem is you can't FIX everything. I can somewhat relate to that, cause my therapist called me a "fixer" too.
It sounds like you're overwhelmed now. In the past , people opened up to you and dumped their problems on you. You tried to support them & help them -- you were good at it. So they kept doing it, right? After awhile, you get burned out! You start to think "what about ME?" Who is going to listen to MY problems? You were always the listener before -- everyone came to YOU. But who are you supposed to go to? You don't feel you can go to "them" because THEY have problems!
So now what do you do? You clam up. You don't talk to anyone. You don't even want to talk to anyone. Even the IDEA seems impossible. So you start attacking yourself both mentally & physically. You figure "what's the use." You get 'numb." You avoid people at all costs. Blah blah blah.
Well, my friend it's time for counseling!!! NOW. You've got to get out of this state of mind quickly before it gets ingrained in your brain! I don't like the 'finality' of some of your statements. PLEASE call a therapist tomorrow -- and set up an appointment. There IS help out there, believe me. I'm a product of therapy and life is GREAT!!!  Please???? God bless. Hugs, Lee
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