I am going to tell you the #1 thing that you need to know about having a baby.....

Yes, he is the baby's "father" but that doesn't necessarily mean that he is going to be the baby's "dad."

"She needs her dad with us." Does she need the right to know her father? Yes. Does that mean that you need to be with him as a girlfriend/wife? No. A child does not need to grow up with one parent abusing the other.

Now, this is hard for me because I am starting to think my husband might be abusive, which kills me. Because I love him to the depths of my soul. He's not only acting abusive, but an addict, which also kills me. I have two kids with him. So my advice to you is this.... Go now. Go now before the baby is born. Go now while you're family can still take you back. Go now before you are crushed so low below his boot heels that you can barely get out of bed. I've dug myself into a hole so deep, I don't know which way is up anymore... and getting out is so much harder

Give him the rights to see his daughter. Give him the chance to be "dad." But there is no shame in someday finding someone else who will love you and treat you with respect and treat your daughter well. By doing this you are thinking of your baby.