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Old Apr 24, 2012, 11:10 PM
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Originally Posted by GypsyRosalie View Post
We have a few questions.

1. Is there any benefit to co-consciousness? Any downsides?

2. Is there any benefit to integrating? Downsides?

I ask these questions because I have been thinking "If this is all a coping mechanism, no one is getting hurt, and everything is running and functioning smoothly, is there any reason to change the system? Doesn't that mean my system is working?"

3. Children about age 3-4 really trigger me to switch. I usually see and hear what's happening when this particular switch happens, but I am a horrible person to this kid. I just want to know if there is anything I can do to be nicer or more in control, or if anyone has any idea why I might be having this problem.

All of us appreciate answers.
Benefits to co consciousness - with those rare few that I was able to become co conscious with it was easier for me because they were able to communicate their needs.. example with one alter I wasnt co conscious with I never knew what was upsetting her, why she was filled with so much hatred, why she would behave the way she did, why she would get us in some very hard situations, where as an alter I had limited co consciousness with I was able to know why she was the way she was, why she kept hiding things, why she kept taking us to strange places. it was just so much easier to deal with the known vs dealing with the unknown.

for me having very little co consciousness and not knowing things was the downfall.. example it wasn't fun to become aware and discover while you have been dissociated an alter tried suicide.. not fun one second being at a camp ground with friends and what to me felt like the next second becoming aware of the hospital restraints, cameras and nakedness because I was in lock down for suicide..

benefits of integration - my whole life now makes sense, there's no more losing time, no more becoming aware after a switch and finding I have been restrained and locked up on a mental ward, no more bounced bank accounts, no more getting lost, no uncontrollable chaotic life of unpredictability, much more happiness, all my clothes fit me and I don't have to worry about losing my job because of DID issues... gosh I can go on and on with the benefits of how integration made my life better, more stable.

downfalls for me there are no downfalls. I'm very happy I integrated and wouldn't have it any other way.
Thanks for this!
GypsyRosalie