I'm right there with you - just because it's emotional abuse doesn't make it alright, far from it. I struggle to push my own mother's manipulative psychotic voice out of my head sometimes, but my other half is great for stepping in and telling me how wrong she is. Telling someone how she is, and telling them when she displays this kind of behaviour so they can support you is really helpful.

Is there anyone else you could move in with? I crashed on friends floors and sofas for a few months and it was muuuuch preferable to going home.

Having a counsellor to vent to can be really useful too, and having someone identify her toxic behaviour and agree it is is really helpful in reminding yourself you are not the one in the wrong.

I hope you find a solution that brings you some peace.