I would imagine by now you may have read about my catching the home care RN stealing my mothers Identity. When she minupalated her way into caring for my Mother (the RN was the neighbor of my Mothers boyfriend & a close friend of his daughter), I notices strange things happening. I noticed that several checks were filled out to someone we didn't know & then one was filled out to CASH. The RN told me not to worry my mother about putting a stop payment on the checks which totaled almost $1000. There was also jewelry missing in the house (like all my Mothers valuable jewelry), & her wedding ring was missing off her hand. My mother mentioned that she got a call asking her for her PIN number to her Discover card. She told me she couldn't remember it & told the person that....(she would have told them if she had remembered). Then one morning, I heard the RN on the phone giving out my Mothers Identity including her Mothers maiden name. I guess the RN had talked to my mother & asked her the information....because she had everything....mothers maiden name, my Mothers SS #, & everyone's date of birth......then my Mother had given the RN my SS # & information on top of everything else. Luckily my mother hadn't remembered it correctly, but when I looked through everything my Mother had written down, she had the SS# for me & my daughter written in her phone book for anyone to read that wanted it. I confronted the RN when she was on the phone applying for a credit card as my Mother.....& when I took the phone, the RN went to the base phone & cut the phone line......the phone had gone dead when I was talking to the lady & I found the phone cord cut later that morning. The RN had come into my room & told me not to tell anyone what had happened & that her Vet had called her earlier that morning telling her that her dog had to be put to sleep & that was her excuse for not thinking well & being upset, she made a poor choice. At that point I realized that I had to get her out of the house, but the damage she did before that is something I will probably never be able to erase. She had the police called anonomously to accuse me of abusing my Mother & the came to the house & spent over 2 hours herassing me about the fact that I should know why they were there. I didn't find out that I was being accused of abusing my mother until about an hour into the questioning after trying to tell them about everything that had been going on in the house for the 4 prior days with the RN. Being told to shut up & sit down & continually being asked to tell them why they were there is something I probably will never be able to erase from my mind. The fear of being accused of something I didn't do & the fear that my mother didn't have the cognative ability anymore to let them know that it wasn't me. She was continually being fed by the RN that I was being controlling & that I wasn't giving my mother the freedom she should have to take care of her own business. Luckily my Mother wasn't influenced by the RN enough to hurt me, but the fear was still there until they left the house. The final straw was when the RN OD'ed my mother on morphine.....I don't know what the purpose was.....maybe to get us out of the house so she could clean it out.....but I made sure that just after my mother was taken to the ER that my husband changed the locks on all the doors. I tried so hard to protect my Mother & the hospital security suggested using an alias for her.......that was a fight because she wanted to see her boyfriend so badly that was all she asked for....but he was so closely related to the RN, I had a fear that she could get to us before I could file a report with the police. The hospital social worker helped me by filing a report with Adult Protective Services & I did also.....then followed that with a police report. The sad part of it all was that I did a good enough job reacting to everything that happened that there was nothing left to catch the RN by. Even when she stole & used one of my Mothers credit cards, that was just written off as fraud & nothing was left to catch the RN with. Even the police ended up dropping it when the DA told the detective there was not enough evidence to prosecute her.

I have no idea how many people she did the same thing to before....I know she bragged about having a Tiffiny wedding ring (I am sure that was stolen). She had a financial person involved with her also, but nothing able to catch her either. I am sure that she is continuing to plot against people with cancer......she was wanting to set up a care place where she could care for people with cancer .....that had no families.....so you know she was planning on stealing all of their ID's too. When looking up her name on the internet, I was surprised to see that it was supposed to be a lady that was 70 years old....& to top that off, the lady had been 70 years old for 4 years. I know there was alot going on....but there was no way to prove anything....& the police didn't have enough to go on. They did tell me that the name on one of my mothers checks that was filled out had the alias name that the RN used.....but even with that....because the checks were never cashed (because she knew that we had put a stop payment on them)...nothing could ever be done with that information.

People that steal ID's really have get away with it most of the time.....they know how to keep just safe enough & to make our lived a living nightmare....for years following.

No matter how our ID's are stolen, whether we find out that someone has done it to us, or we actually physically catch them, it is a violation that is hard to get through. I know I feel for you when it happens over the internet.....initially we don't see any danger until after it hits. It is good that you posted about your experience.....hopefully we all can be more aware of what we are doing to at least try to keep ourselves safer than if we ignore the possibilities.

Thank you for your post......the more experiences that we realize happen, the more aware we can be to try to protect ourselves.
Debbie