I'll be the bad one. First of all like you said she had a child who she didn't want to wake up from a nap which is understandable. Second, she doesn't decided what her husband can do and can't do. I think he should have made the decision on his own and he didn't
stop by. He might have walked out the door and she never seen him after talking to you.

We would always like to have our friends there for us when we need them but that is asking too much. Life doesn't always working that way.