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Apr 25, 2012, 03:58 PM
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Member Since: May 2008
Location: Alabama, USA
Posts: 1,309
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Hopeless_Heart - yes, it was in his name but we had amicably agreed that he would cancel the contract once I had set up a new one. It was only when he was causing trouble and I asked him to stop, that he cut it off. That's the part that wasn't fair.
As for the cats yes, I get that they were his Christmas present but when I am the one who has training in animal care and who has cared for animals ON MY OWN all my life, yet he hasn't cared for an animal at all in his life, I think it should be I who dictates what happens to the kittens. Yes I am sure that the dog will terrorise them because I have seen him around cats and other animals. I am not using it as an excuse to keep them, had there not been the dog in the equation and if I were sure that David would take as good care of them as I can, I would happily let him keep them himself.
I do not want to hurt David, no matter how much he is trying to mess me around and hurt me. I wouldn't sink so low, I am far better than that. I know exactly how he is feeling because I have been in his situation before, plus I have thought everything through and explained to him why I'm doing what I'm doing. He, however, is doing what he's doing to spite me. For goodness' sake last night's actions proved that..
I'm not having a go at you by any means, I'm just answering your queries honestly...
Harley:
Once again I thank you for your reply.
I like to think that I'm being responsible. Animals are very much like Children - they need to be settled in a place where they feel safe with people they feel safe with.
I have spoken to him as though the dog wasn't in the picture and when things weren't so bad as they are now, he agreed that actually it was unfair to settle them like it would had he gone with them.
Here's how it is:
I went on a car journey today with the cats. They have been on the same car journey twice or more. They went out of the zone they are used to travelling in and straight away started miaowing because obviously they didn't know where they were. I put my hand into their carrier and they settled down. Once we got back to where they knew, they were OK again. They are at the vets tonight being spayed/castrated tomorrow... I miss them so much! They are such characters 
Of course the reason David cut me off was because he *thought* it would affect my work. But it only didn't because I was quick about it, on the ball and 11 hours later was back online again, able to contact photographers and such.
He tried stirring up trouble last night and while it got me thinking about how low he's prepared to go, it didn't faze me. Purely because I know that I can keep myself safe and that I have my head screwed on a whole lot better than I used to. He wants me to hit the deck and go back into self harming etc, he wants to see me hurt - I've no idea why - but if that's what he wants, then he damn well won't get it.
I'm feeling a lot better today, I had some excellent feedback at work and I've had a lovely evening, spending time with special people, cooking, talking and chilling out. I'm finding things difficult but I know that the more I keep this up, this positive, proactive attitude, the more I am going to gain from life. It's hard work but that's what I live for.
 to all xxx
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