yeah I think that never having fun with you is a big clue. my parents were foreign and not educated so no they were not like everyone else's parents but still my dad did do SOME fun things with me, whereas my mom, NEVER. How can you like someone who you never remember smiling at you? I mean literally never smiling, just always looking at you suspiciously, never saying good job or thanks, even after you did all the family laundry (there I go again, about the wringer washer machine and no dryer!). Anyway. And I get the part about favoring the boys. I wish I had some advice to make it better. I don't. I'm sorry it's like this for you. It does affect your life in a lot of negative ways, it makes it harder for you to know how to be a woman yourself. It's quite unfortunate when a woman treats her daughter this way. Try to find another female role model if you can, an aunt or a teacher, or even your therapist, and just absorb as much as you can.