Hi

It sounds like you are describing my mother!! The first thing you need to do is MOVE OUT ASAP!!!! Get as far away from her as possible!! She is toxic and very manipulative!! There is a great book I read years ago by an American author Susan Forward called 'Toxic Parents'. I recommend you buy it or get it from the library!!! It's the bible on toxic parents like your mother. And lastly see a therapist to help decode the brainwashing she has done on you!