Thanks for sharing your experiences; it is really helpful especially where people have said things like that not asking is allowing you to control the session; and trusting you to bring up what is important. At some level I've picked up the idea that if someone doesn't ask it means they don't care. Realistically I know that isn't the case; and I know there are many instances where I've forgotten to ask or follow through on things people have told me although I try to; and when I don't ask it hasn't meant I'm not interested or don't care. Yet somehow that belief comes up again and again and I get hurt when I'm not asked