When a apart of you still has unmet needs and goes about getting them met in unhealthy ways or ways that no longer work for "you" as the person you wish to be, how the hell can you change it?

Just as I wrote that I heard my T's voice say "we keep talking about it". But dam it I want it over now!

Yes some will say awareness is the first step, but I've been aware for ages. What's the answer?