I try to remember to work "with" myself instead of against; so, if part of me is meeting needs I find are legit, but just don't like how, I let that part keep doing what it's doing since it is trying to/is helping. I try not to condemn/be negatively critical of anything I do, but rather, curious as to why I'm doing it that way instead of another. There isn't anything bad in what I do, any damage can be fixed and only bothers me, etc. So I chewed all my fingernails off last night; I don't do that very often anymore and I'm wondering why last night; one fingernail is below the quick so painful but it will grow back/quit hurting in a day or two! I'm much more interested in comforting or making less anxious the part that had to chew all the fingernails off in the first place, rather than yelling at her for chewing them off?