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Old Apr 26, 2012, 11:40 AM
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Originally Posted by skysblue View Post
Thanks all for you generous offering of support. I agree with all of your comments. I do see your collective wisdom at work here.

elliemay - you're so right that what mood one is in will definitely color how we perceive or receive information. I know my feelings are overblown. I need to get a handle on them. Although when I've used that expression before my T advises me to 'not' get a handle on them, that that conveys an outside attempt at control. She advises me to sit with the emotions and let them be heard and not try to tamp them down. Hear what they have to say. I guess I must try that now.
i think she is absolutely right. The feelings are what they are. There's no stopping them. However, predicting that you will never trust your therapist is an action. Sit with the feelings, but only the feelings of disappointment, betrayal, anger and hurt. There need no be any action or decisions that arise from them - especially when you know "logically" that they may be overblown.
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Thanks for this!
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